A New Type Of Loneliness!
Nearly everyone have struggled with loneliness at some point in time; you would be hard-pressed to find anyone who hasn’t suffered at least a short stint of painful loneliness.
Loneliness is no longer characterized by rejection from the group, friends, family or an inability to find a mate. Today, isolation is often experienced by highly functional people who have no apparent cause for feeling separate. This type of loneliness is hard to pinpoint, even by those in the throes of it. It’s a new type of loneliness, one that is not typified by a lack of people in our lives. It’s an internal loneliness, a loneliness of the heart and mind.The Effect Of Technology To Our Social Lives
Our default mode of interaction is through a mediator - a device. This is the first way in which personal technology is putting up roadblocks to closeness: it is making mediated interaction the norm.Mediated interaction, by definition
, is not direct access to one another. Remember, closeness
is defined as direct access to another person’s inner world. The more we replace in-person closeness with mediated interaction, the harder it is to understand anyone else’s inner world or for them to understand ours.
One type of mediated interaction that deserves special attention here is social networks
— Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, to name just a few. In some ways the combination of mobile phones and social networks is the perfect storm of mediated interaction. It feels so much like you have people around. You can feel as if you are carrying people around in your pocket at all times. But is this ability really making you happy?You cannot feel what another person is feeling over Instagram
. You cannot understand what our friend is thinking over Pinterest. We cannot embrace each other over Tweeter. You cannot really know and care through a screen.The value of voice tone, body language, facial expression, and emotional signals should not be underestimated. For this reason it is vital to reconsider the way we nurture our relationships by reviewing how we communicate.
Technology should be reserved for maintaining an already close relationship, as opposed to using technology to create one. It’s extremely difficult to do the work of knowing and caring if you and the other person are not in the same physical space.